The [lazy?] days of Summer and the Zero to Hero assignments seem to be whizzing by.
Time to don the cape, the super hero boots and the golden lasso and practice leaping off a few blog posts in a single bound.
Most of the assignments since I last checked in have involved blog tinkering including adding some widgets, Spring cleaning of the blog’s about page and side bar and honing commenting skills. However, there are a couple of assignments that require a blog post
Day 12: write a post that builds on one of the comments you left yesterday. Don’t forget to link to the other blog!
Day 16: publish a post based on your own, personalized take on today’s Daily Prompt. The Prompt on the day being:
Do you have a reputation? What is it, and where did it come from? Is it accurate? What do you think about it?
In the interests of energy conservation, I am going to combine the two assignments in this one post.
On day 12, I commented on a wonderful post by BTG who blogs at musingsofanoldfart. The post entitled, I Am Looking for a Hard Headed Woman discussed the lyrics of the Cat Stevens’ song of the same name and gave BTG’s take on what a “hard headed woman” means to him, drawing particularly on two lines of the song:
- one who will take me for myself
- one who will make me do my best
and finally counting his blessings in having married a hard headed woman. It was a heartfelt post from a blogger who uses his vast knowledge of music and lyrics to shine a spotlight on the more meaningful events of a human life.
It is extremely refreshing to see a male acknowledge his love and appreciation for a hard headed woman. I firmly believe that most men love a hard headed woman, but there is something in the ‘How Men Should Act Code” that prevents them from publicly making this admission. But have a think about it, how many families do you know where the wife/woman leads the way? She may not do it openly for a clever woman knows never to make her mate feel emasculated, but how many times is she truly the family brains trust? How many times is she the resilient one, how many times is she the one that pushes the family beyond its collective comfort zone and introduces it to novel experiences? How many times does she credit her mate with spearheading the charge?
So what does being heard headed woman mean to me?
A hard headed woman is one who is willing to make decisions – tough, easy, makes no difference, there is no inertia with a hard headed woman. She is one who is less worried about chipping a nail and more about rolling up her sleeves, one who owns the consequences of her actions and omissions, one who will defend her family no matter what, one who moves the family forward with due thought and care but who does not feel the need for ask for permission and one who knows where she is going.
She makes her mate feel central to her processes and tries to cloak her sterner stuff in feminine warmth and softness.
As the song says one who makes her mate do his best.
If I could choose to have a reputation it would be as a hard headed woman in the manner I have described. Have I achieved it? That’s impossible to answer as it is akin to asking someone to answer their own “Does my bum look big in this?” question. Just like it is difficult to see how one’s own backside looks, it is very difficult to judge one’s own reputation. To do so would necessitate holding up a mirror to one’s interactions with others and interpreting what is reflected back. A rather inaccurate process.
Thank you BTG for making the admission about hard headed women. It is hoped that more men take your lead and publicly confess to their secret appreciation for us. A hard headed woman is a perfect complement to a strong, soft hearted man. A note to you men, strong and soft heartedness are not mutually exclusive. In a woman’s eyes you can be both and perhaps the collective male psych will evolve one day to also reach that happy place.
For further reference, read The New Manhood by Steve Biddulph. Also, a must read for mothers with sons.