Trust is a five letter word. I suppose it could have been a four letter word, but then it would have been RUST and we probably all have enough of that.
We have all probably also had enough of deception and of pain when our trust in someone or something has been broken. I know I have.
And yet…
The idea of never trusting again holds little appeal. For trust is an essential ingredient to connecting on more than a superficial level. It begins in childhood with the whole ‘I”ll show you mine, if you show me yours” concept and evolves as we mature to “I’ll share with you mine, if you share with me yours”. And when there’s true sharing, the trust and the endorphins flow. Trust is a cornerstone of not only social relationships but also of business relationships as embodied in notions such as the trusted advisor and the trustee steed. Where would the Loan Ranger have been without Silver? Possibly Hi Hoed, but very much stationary.
Trusting means opening up your life so that others can enter. As the saying goes, a life without trust is the ultimate prison. And I truly believe this. Storming the Bastille can be hard and unforgiving work.
So, today I give myself permission to:
Trust the moment…
…for worry never solved anything and only gives you frown lines
Trust in God…
…all others must pay cash
Trust my instincts…
…because my tummy tells me so
Trust in Ellen…
…because she says funny stuff like “People always ask me “Were you funny as a child? Well, no, I was an accountant.” And child accountants are very trustworthy not to mention, funny
Trust the path I’m on…
…or that I have the ability to switch to another one if it turns out to be a deadend
Trust in my authenticity…
…because keeping it real is the cornerstone of connection
Trust the internet bloggers…
…to provide some creative quality distraction.
Raising the Curtain 
Trust is tricky because you open yourself to hurt but it can also be liberating.
Agreed, if you never risk you can’t be liberated.
If you don’t learn to trust as a youngster, it doesn’t become easier as you grow up. Trust sincerely and with faith but not everything and everybody. Think about it first. This is a gift given from the heart and the receiver should be worthy of it.
Another uplifting post.
It is a gift indeed and you are right about the recipient. I guess I advocate for a default position of trust if there is doubt. By trust in this situation, I mean let someone in your life socially.
Trust is a choice. We have to choose to give our trust; it can’t be coerced or cajoled from us without our permission. Learning that was an eye-opener for me. Great post. 🙂
I love your wisdom, it’s spot on 🙂
We are in parallel today with the word “trust.” Part of the fun of A to Z is seeing how several of us might choose the same word but approach it from our own unique angle. I like your list of things and people you give yourself permission to trust.
Jagoda
Thanks Jogoda. I’m off to read your trust post. I’m sure you will have an interesting angle to the concept.
Just one word: bless x
XX
Yes! Yes! I have come to the same conclusion – though I had my share of deception, too. But on the other hand I have experienced too much positive effects of people (friends and clients) trusting me – so I have decided to trust others (mostly).
Offtopic: I am your 42nd facebook fan – what an awesome coincidence 🙂
That’s such a meaningful coincidence 🙂
The fact is we have to risk to gain, living totally risk free is not really a life, it’s an existence. Sometime we win, sometimes we don;t but if we are not even in the game them we have lost already.
I love everything you write. But this, this connected deep inside. Thank you.
Thank you Dagny. I’m glad it spoke to you.
Hiya .. I learnt about trust when my mother was seriously stroked for over 5 years … I realised she’d put her trust in me to see her through … she quite quickly realised what was necessary – it made a lot of difference to me. She could talk … but not much else – at least we had that .. and we educated and amused each other .. it was a big learning curve.
Cheers Hilary